Do the Intimacy Boot Camp Regimen with us!
Have Leslie & Peg Teach YOU the Boot Camp
Couples we've spoken to all want to try our Intimacy Boot Camp asking, "Where do I go to do your Boot Camp, How do I do it?"
Here's How:
First: To start pick one of the following exercises and execute as perscribed below for at least one month.
Then: If you like, let us know how you do/share your story and you'll be entered to win fabulous prizes & overnight get-a-ways. You can read Boot Campers comments and stories below. Share your story by adding comments to the thread!
Note: We highly reccomend you execute one of the first 4 steps to start! If you follow these steps for one month we can guarantee you will see results.
INTIMACY BOOT CAMP STEPS:
10 Simple Love Acts (detailed explanations can be found in our book)
- Go on a weekly date with just your partner. (No kids allowed) Ideas: This can be a meal out, a walk, a hike, a cup of tea, or you can export the kids and have it at home. But you must be alone with your mate once a week for at least an hour.
- Apply the 15 minute rule. You must talk to your partner for 15 minutes EVERY DAY in person, uninterrupted without the kids around, no texting, no calls. And the conversation can not be about the kids, money !or unpaid bills. And you each get 7 1/2 minutes. (If you are apart due to business, skyping is acceptable with no kids nearby.)
- Compliment your partner DAILY: You must say something positive or it can even just be a "Thank You" statement daily.
- Have a WEEKLY sex date -- even if you really, really don't want to. Schedule it on your calendar and you both need to honor the sex date time and place.
- French Kiss your mate WEEKLY. (The kiss needs to last more than 7 seconds.)
- Flash each other once a day -- even for 2 seconds.
- Hug for more than 60 seconds DAILY.
- Offer a sexual favor or trade once every 4 weeks during this 4 week regimen. Maybe a clean kitchen for ... well, that's up to you. But make the offer.
- Dance together ONCE a week. In the house, out of the house, in the garage, but move together in a sensual way to music.
- Plan one 24-hour getaway per year away from the house and the kids. If you can't afford a hotel, plan camping or a house trade with a friend without kids.
Sharing your story will inspire others and you can help someone else get a healthier intimate love life with their partner!
Comments:
I LOVED your radio spot on KZST’s morning show on Tuesday! 
Way to go! Your “intimacy boot camp” has given me ideas of where to begin to liven up the romance department in my marriage. Thank you and what blessing your mission is!
Hi,
I listened to a talk from Peg and Leslie about their new book and intimacy bootcamp. I was inspired and shared it with my husband, who obviously thought it was a good idea. We have been having more dates and sex. We feel more loved and in love.
Thank you for sharing and reminding me of the way it should be!
Joy
Thank you for you comment Joy - it’s so wonderful to hear things are percolating over there with you and your husband!
We are so honored to be able to help you in any way!!! Keep the good news coming and let us know how you’re doing!
Peg and Leslie
Hi.
Thanks for a great night….for me…I tried the daily french kissing
A 15 min talk.
I had a minute-plus hug with my husband! Nellie Hsu Ling
Hello there,
Thanks so much for organizing the Intimacy BootCamp, it was great!
To answer the question on implementing the BootCamp tips tonight…The first thing I did when returning home, was thank my husband for being a great dad and husband, out of the blue. He looked at me kind of funny, and said “Did they teach you that at the Camp?”!
Looking forward to implementing more of the tips!
Thanks again, and thanks to Leslie and Peg for their entertaining and informative talk!
Best,
Birte Scholz
I flashed XXX, and then sent him on his way for a run.
My husband and I will try to do date night on Friday. I even got a baby sitter lined up for my 3 kids under 6.
We implemented the “Fifteen Minute” talking session! Thanks so much, Christina Adler
Fortunately, we are already doing some of the things mentioned in bootcamp like: weekly sex date (it wasn’t last night!), daily affection, and getting away every 6mths (we try to go every qtr.). Last night I did flash him - that definitely got his attention ! Rana
Hi Ladies,
I really enjoyed all the discussions. It was hard for me to decide how much info to share with my husband last night, but I decided to provide all the boot camp ideas related to scheduling. My husband was very open to the ideas, at the same time as being shocked that we should schedule date nights every week. I think he liked the other weekly scheduling activity even better! We plan to start the 15 min rule asap.
Thanks again,
Jennifer
Hi! Thanks for a great event last night.
Last night, I implemented ‘one compliment a day’ with my husband when I got home!
Best,
Shannon Delucchi
Congratulations to our winners of our Book Camp Contest!
Our “Your Story” winners are:
Rhonda and Kristy.
Rhonda and her partner won an overnight at the Camellia Inn in Healdsburg, and Kristy and her partner won an overnight at the Inn at Occidental. Get babysitters pronto and score some couple time!
Our “comment” winners are:
Birk and Jennifer.
Birk won a massage and Jennifer won a photo shoot with Christophe Genty.
Runners up include:
Isabelle, Erin and Bill, all of whom won a signed book from the authors.
Please send your snail mail addresses to us via .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) and we’ll send you the gift certificates, books, etc.
Stay tuned. We’ll be announcing our new contest this week and we’ll be choosing winners each month.
Funny how enjoyable that French kissing is….
I surprised my husband with a lingering French kiss this morning, and he surprised me by opening and hiding a Word doc on my computer that said, in 96-font, I LOVE YOU! Awesome, simple idea. Thanks!
Wow - awesome post Carolyn - Intimacy, if you build it they will come eh?!!!
Loved reading that!
These sound like great strategies. Even if you’re at a point that you don’t feel that spark in your marriage, if you begin to act romantic toward your spouse, the feelings will follow!
SO true Amy!!! Sometimes, you’ve got to use it or lose it unfortunately… sometimes a love act in motion stays in motion! We schedule everything why not romance?
Thank you for your comment!
Make Love!
I love the weekly date…it is such a wonderful idea to create more balance in your relationship and to exercise asking for help with other people caring for the baby.
Yes Chris, I agree, the weekly date revives our loving feelings every week and there were times when I had to beg, trade, pay too much for sitters but I realize now that I can not, could not, do not put a price tag on the weekly date-because I can’t put a price tag on the value of my partnership and how this regular date helps me .us stay connected. It’s so worth the stress of setting it up every time!
Take care, Leslie
PS-keep it up!!!!!!!!
I will try the speaking for 15 min a day WITHOUT interruptions from kids. Although I am very tired at night, yes, it’s important. I will report back my results!
Dear Michelle, Yes, it is so tough when we are sleep deprived and so tired-my tip is that the MOMENT the kids are asleep, gather your mate and sit across from each other-each person gets 7.1/2 minutes—usually that’s the capacity when we are not getting much sleep-use those 15 minutes total to share something about how you are as a person, not as a parent or worker, but share something about how you are feeling in general about life. Share your results after you have tried this daily tip for a few weeks.
We started doing the 15min. a day conversation this week and also the 1min. hug. So far, it has been difficult, but we’re only 3 days in. I’ll report back next Thur ;D
Dear Colleen, I am so happy that you have started our Intimacy Boot Camp Steps, the thing is..that you are totally right—It is extremely difficult when dealing with a new baby, sleep deprivation and general exhaustion to take time to talk to our partner for 15 minutes a day and even to hug daily, much less the other steps we have o our list-but here is the little secret taboo deal that NO one talks about—If we don’t do these steps- many couples find that 5 years in to raising kids-they lose all emotional and physical Intimacy—so I have discovered it’s worth the work- to put my partner first!
Keep it up, and let us know how it’s goin, Leslie
